Trying to please everyone is foolishness, not kindness. You can never please everyone at the same time. There’d be always someone who isn’t satisfied. Especially if the people who you address to is increased, even though you catch a lightning in a bottle, they’d call you “Animal murderer”. Let’s assume that you’re the leader of the world, and you manage the whole world. As long as the people who loves you aren’t equal to those who hate you, you can’t be a true leader. Good people are equal to the bad ones in the world. Some of them are a real devil, and some of them are an angel. However, this balance never collapses. So even if you’re a true leader, number of people who loves you must be equal to those who hates you. It’s extremely difficult but, let’s assume that you satisfied all of them. Everyone is very happy because of you, and all of them loves you. In such a case, I’ll be the one who doesn’t love you. Because you’re a liar and crook! You become an angel when you’re with good people, and when you’re with those bad ones, you become a devil. In short, you don the guise of them to please all the people. You become a part of everyone, but you never be yourself. You’re a characterless man!
I pay so much attention to this balance of my life. It seems like those who love me are more than the others, but it’s not my concern. If I told this sentence at the start of first paragraph, I’d be seem as an egoist. But the meaning of this sentence is so much different on this paragraph, am I right? 🙂 It’s not a good thing that being loved by everyone, it’s even a bad thing. Therefore to fix this problem, I’ve performed some works for a year and succeded to increase the numbers of those who don’t love me 😀 I’m not doing this on purpose, of course. I mean I don’t enjoy the fact that being hated by others. How did I do that? I tried to be more honest about my opinions. I said my personal ideas to the face of other people without equivocating. I don’t nod to others’ wrong opinions anymore. Of course, there are some people who are annoyed because of this :). That way I realize that the number of my haters are increasing recently, and I’m just smiling 🙂 Because it means I’m on the right road, if it keeps its balance. By the way, I started to eliminate those who claim that they love me. I need a friend who accepts me with my all defects, not the one who just loves me. How many people would help me in tougher times? This is important, more precisely even it isn’t important. Speaking of this, let me talk about it on the last paragraph. To be brief, I need a few real friend who would help me in my difficult times, not a thousand of people who likes my sharings on social media.
As a matter of fact, it’s not about loving or hating. I need a person with a steady character. I mean, a person who faces up to difficulties, balances his material and nonmaterial life. I need a person who doesn’t break a heart, and is hard to be broken by others. A character-wise person trains his sights on something. He just walks on the road of his aim. Haters, lovers, the balance of these two, and anything else is not a concern of him. He just walks, he never pays attention to fizzle of fly. If necessary, he sacrifices himself for his purpose, but he never gives up and looks back. Above all, those likes on facebook are nothing for him :). You can’t describe him, the only way to understand that guy is getting in front of him. It’d be very appropriate to finish this article with a quotation which belongs to Ahmed er Rifai who is this kind of man. “I hope Allah grants us these kind of people.”