It seems to me from those around me that we’re in such a condition of blaming each other recently. Is your exam mark is low? Then it means your teacher didn’t give the point that you deserve. Are you sick? Then it’s because of this damned weather. Are your computer broken down? Then it’s because of those viruses. Things going bad? Then it’s because of your co-workers. Are you hungry? Then it’s because of your government. I can write millions of questions and answers here. Trust me, if we ask ourselves “Is this because of me?” instead of blaming each other, a lot of problems in the world would be fixed. Let’s go deeper then.
We’re too busy with others. Someone else leered me, someone else denigrated me, someone else didn’t say hi to me, someone else doesn’t love me, someone else, someone else, someone else… It’s endless, those someone elses never end. Let them go! You live your own life, not theirs. That’s why you’re responsible for your happiness. All of those efforts to pleasure other people are for nothing. You even wear your clothes with considering other people’s opinions and saying to yourself “I wonder if they like this?”. Your words and manner take their shape with other people’s opinions as well. So what’s the result of this? You became “someone else”. After a little time, you turn into a coward who is afraid of facing himself. Because you’re too far away from yourself. You start to see your truths as a monster.You are even afraid of looking at mirror. I experienced some incident about it. When I took sound record of someone and make him to listen it, he said “You’re lying! This is not my voice!”. I take it normally, of course. Nobody can hear his real voice during talking process. But we need to face our truths. We accept our good sides instantly, but when it comes to our evil sides, we reject and push them off on to other people. We can’t advance our consciousness level to higher point, because we run away from our truths. As a result, because of the fact that we run away from ourselves, we experience the same problems for years. It continues until we accept ourselves as is. Good or not. Yes, it’s important to fix our bad sides, but I’m talking about the fact that accepting the bad sides of us. If it keeps up like this, we’ll end our travel with a huge emptiness when death comes for us.
Being a human is hard thing. We shouldn’t fool ourselves, because scientifically all of us are an animal. Let the first truth which we accept is this. Humanity is a conscious thing. If we consider the fact that “human” word originates from “familiarity”, a person cannot be a human until he gets along with other people. Don’t fool yourselves, we need to face our truths. We need to fight our character which lives “someone else” oriented. And above all, we need to advance day by day. Being a human is hard thing. Saying “I’m human. I’m superior than all of angels.” without fighting is not appropriate. Don’t forget, sometimes you’re below even the devil. You just aren’t aware of your potential, that’s all!
Yes, as our article finished, who do we blame now? Let’s see who is the lucky one. A driver, or a teacher, or a friend, or you who has the merest chance? Good luck.